How my Valentine and Valentine’s Day changed over the years..
As I write about the day of love I won’t start with the wikipedia definition of “Valentine’s Day”. It is a Day when people can show their love and affection to one another by sending cards, flowers or chocolates. This day can be celebrated with our friend’s, family and kids as the celebration is not limited to couples alone.
My Valentine’s day celebration with HIM started in our late twenties after gaining various experiences from life and when there was no more opportunity for us to try our luck.😉
Me and my boyfriend( now husband) lived in two different cities and we were very excited to celebrate our first Valentine’s day perfectly, as after a series of anti climaxes we were then set to start a new chapter with full energy and charm and lots of positive vibes.
Mr.A called me and informed that he will be coming to see me on 14th Feb and my joy knew no bounds. I started dreaming all kind of best things we will be doing. I tried to rush on 14th Feb afternoon to the airport wearing a denim and white top and as I was not a makeup person 7 years back so it took only ten minutes to get ready. Entire morning I spent on bed thinking rather dreaming whether he will propose me again or he will surprise me bringing a bunch of flowers or will take me for formal dinner.
My thoughts and his actions were absolutely different. My mushy dreams about dating on Valentine’s day and his ideas of celebrating the day was so different..
As I was waiting for him I was totally absorbed in deep thoughts and could see him approaching me carrying a huge rucksack with him and a laptop bag🤐 .
He hugged me and then we sat on a cab, I was wondering where are the flowers??
We got down at our friends place as decided for lunch and there he handed over that bag to me with a smile, it was a huge teddy bear. I was blushing but was still expecting more.
Now comes the celebration part, I was so carried away by this Valentine’s day fantasy that I asked him “Are we going for some extravagant dinner at any fancy restaurant or a long drive…. I realised that day that the toughest parts of Valentine’s Day is deciding what to do to make it perfect.He got little uncomfortable with my big plans and withen few minutes I got to know he just wanted to spent lots of time with me and avoided going out to crowded restaurants or pub. I was totally disappointed with this spiritless thing as I’ve known him to be a planner type. My valentines Day didnt go as per my expectations or my plan, but trust me, that was super romantic Valentine’s day for me in these seven years . He made me feel so special with his culinary skill and then gifting me a frame of “our” favourite photo. We spent a real good time which made me realise Valentine’s day is just another day or an opportunity to make your partner feel special.
Next Valentine’s day we were hitched and this time it was all about champagne, a cosy lingerie and lots of cuddles but that was celebrated on the last week of Feb as my husband had lots of deadlines to be met and he was extremely busy on “14th Feb”. “Celebration of love” now was no more a kind of huge fantasy for me. My husband expressed love many times in a day and we planned date nights very often. Apart from the fact I missed a big teddy bear that year and it was replaced by a ring in a rose😍 that was a surprise for me from such a person who is real bad in surprising anyone.
Story of two lovers continues for another year and then we became new Mom and Dad. Biggest Valentine’s Day gift as a new Mom I wanted from my husband was “Please sleep like me and my baby”. My idea about celebrating the day of love changed and I didn’t want to make a big deal out of it.
Now even if my husband comes to me and requests me to go out for dinner on Valentine’s day I’ll tell him “with two the chaos is already high so will go some other day when the dine out places will be less crowded” .My kids don’t like crowd, they will become clingy and may be they feel bit unsafe too.
I won’t mind if my husband now miss to give me a bunch of Red roses this Valentine’s Day. The overpriced Red roses look good only in florists shop and the bunch will turn brown in four or five days and then droop off in no time.
Now as we are a family of four, Valentine’s day is not restricted with just two of us so I asked my daughter to make a card for Valentine’s day to any of her favourite person or her brother or anyone and she choose to make a card for her “Papa”