“Postpartum Depression” was just a term for me till I experienced it. During my pregnancy I often came across articles on “Postpartum Depression” but I never wanted to know in details what it meant. Reason may be because my pregnancy was not a smooth journey. Spotting every now and then, low BP and other complications didn’t leave any room for me to concentrate on broader spectrum of any mental illness.
After my delivery via C-Section there were so many changes, both physically and emotionally. I was prepared for it still could not accept so many changes easily. When I used to see my little girl I felt good but still not happy deep within, I was very confused and it was never the case that I wanted to hurt myself or my baby. I just wanted to sit and cry, I wanted to be in bed forever. Low Milk supply, Sleepless nights, a colic baby was this the reason?? I couldn’t figure out anything for weeks. I felt irritable all the time. I hated the fact I couldn’t breast feed my baby, I hated it when my baby used to cry because of colic pain for hours and I blamed myself for being a bad mommy. It’s actually not possible to jot down all the points I used to cry about. Many times I shouted on my husband for absolutely no reason. I wanted to consult my Gynecologist again for the same and having done that helped me overcome that phase not so easily but slowly I was in a good state of mind. I could feel the joy of Motherhood. I knew that I am a good Mommy not a perfect one though.
Anyone may suffer “Postpartum Depression”. It does not discriminate. Seeking help at the right time helps a lot. I wish if someone would inform me about it. I had some knowledge about “Baby Blues”, so I waited initially for few days knowing this phase would end soon, but “Baby Blues” and PPD is not the same thing.
So, after Childbirth Whenever we feel low, alone, scared, confused, and not interested in our friends or family and feel like crying for days after delivery we should not ignore those symptoms, rather seek HELP. For me a supportive Partner, A Supportive Doctor helped a lot. We should not be ashamed to talk about it and Seek Help. We can talk to our Mother, Our Partner, and friends about how we feel. Important factor is “POSTPARTUM DEPRESSION” has nothing to do with “Mentally ill” Women.
After overcoming PPD, I started reading a lot about it, I got endless gyaan on how to treat my Baby, how to be a good Mommy, How to increase my milk supply but no one ever warned about the other side of the story, A gloomy phase a women may go through. I understood, many women go through it but don’t speak about it out of fear, what society will think, for all other reason. It’s time to end the Stigma. A strong support system is very much needed to overcome this Phase. My husband was my support from the very beginning. He was the one who could feel what I was going through; He stood like a rock during that phase.
I have limited knowledge about PPD as it’s different for every woman. The ways to overcome are different too, like counselling, medications, Hormone Therapy. In my case Counselling worked wonders, just a session or two as it was moderate. So Mommies to be or new Mommies reading this Please don’t hesitate to seek help if at any moment you feel you cannot handle the stress, There are professionals who can help you overcome this rough phase, Talk about It and Please seek Help. It’s just a phase and will pass soon.
Few Points I strictly followed and which helped are:
I gave time to myself to heal.
I went out for walk or small strolls whenever I felt disturbed.
I knew my baby needs me the most, slowly started talking with her
Went for a vacation.
Took Sleep seriously, Sleep is very much needed to overcome PPD
Engaged myself in experimenting new dishes.
Music and reading helped to a great extent.
Lets glorify our life and add a new meaning to it by embracing the journey of Motherhood. Seeking help and positive Environment will help a lot in overcoming the phase of PPD.